Men’s Health: The Power of Vulnerability
𝗪𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗱𝗼𝗻’𝘁 𝘄𝗮𝗻𝘁 𝘁𝗼 𝗱𝗼 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗹𝗼𝘃𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗱𝗼 – 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝗮 𝘀𝗲𝗿𝗶𝗼𝘂𝘀 𝗾𝘂𝗲𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝘁𝗼 𝗮𝘀𝗸 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳.
I love giving talks.
I am in my flow state when presenting a talk of my own.
I know my own material inside out, which allows me to go off in tangents depending on what’s sparked in the room.
I have to believe every word of what I’m saying, because my talks come from a place of passion.
And it has to be something that will allow whoever is present, or listening, to reflect on their own life.
It will then elicit pertinent questions from the attendees which then helps me solve a problem for them, but also elucidate further on certain points.
𝙎𝙤 𝙬𝙝𝙮 𝙝𝙖𝙫𝙚 𝙄 𝙨𝙩𝙧𝙪𝙜𝙜𝙡𝙚𝙙 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝 𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙨 𝙤𝙣𝙚?
I have been asked to talk about 𝘃𝘂𝗹𝗻𝗲𝗿𝗮𝗯𝗶𝗹𝗶𝘁𝘆 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗺𝗲𝗻.
I was asked a few months ago and the talk was penciled in for the end of August.
It got pushed out to today.
I was delighted for all the extra time.
And I have continued to struggle to put it together.
I finally finished it on Friday.
Why – because it made me vulnerable.
When I talk – I always put myself into it.
All of myself.
I am the example I use of the mistakes I speak about.
Simply because 𝗜 𝗮𝗺 𝗻𝗼 𝗴𝘂𝗿𝘂.
I am somebody who has made a lot of mistakes – and I hope learned from a lot of them
I am somebody who will also make more mistakes.
𝙏𝙝𝙚 𝙮𝙖𝙧𝙙𝙨𝙩𝙞𝙘𝙠 𝙛𝙤𝙧 𝙝𝙤𝙬 𝙄’𝙢 𝙙𝙤𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙞𝙨 𝙬𝙝𝙚𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙧 𝙄’𝙢 𝙧𝙚𝙥𝙚𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙨𝙖𝙢𝙚 𝙢𝙞𝙨𝙩𝙖𝙠𝙚𝙨.
To write about vulnerability for men has made me have to confront all the times in life where I have refused to be vulnerable.
To understand how I erected walls,
Put on Armor,
Created false beliefs,
Told outright lies,
Wouldn’t accept being wrong,
Couldn’t accept I was scared.
All to keep myself safe.
When the truth is 𝙄 𝙬𝙖𝙨 𝙟𝙪𝙨𝙩 𝙩𝙮𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙩𝙤 𝙢𝙖𝙣𝙖𝙜𝙚 𝙤𝙧 𝙨𝙤𝙤𝙩𝙝 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙖𝙣𝙭𝙞𝙚𝙩𝙮 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙨𝙝𝙖𝙢𝙚 instead of allowing myself be vulnerable.
𝙄𝙣𝙨𝙩𝙚𝙖𝙙 𝙤𝙛 𝙘𝙝𝙖𝙣𝙜𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙢𝙮 𝙗𝙚𝙝𝙖𝙫𝙞𝙤𝙪𝙧𝙨 𝙩𝙤 𝙡𝙚𝙖𝙧𝙣 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙜𝙧𝙤𝙬.
This is why doing something I love has proven to be difficult.
Or I should say had proven difficult.
I am ready to do it now.
𝗟𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗻 𝘁𝗼 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗱𝗶𝘀𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗳𝗼𝗿𝘁 – before you put on your Armor – allow yourself the chance to learn and grow and become a better version of yourself.
𝙏𝙝𝙚 𝙩𝙧𝙪𝙚 𝙢𝙚𝙖𝙨𝙪𝙧𝙚 𝙤𝙛 𝙬𝙝𝙤 𝙬𝙚 𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙞𝙨 𝙬𝙝𝙚𝙣 𝙬𝙚 𝙖𝙡𝙡𝙤𝙬 𝙤𝙪𝙧𝙨𝙚𝙡𝙫𝙚𝙨 𝙩𝙤 𝙗𝙚 𝙖𝙪𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙣𝙩𝙞𝙘, 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙛𝙞𝙣𝙖𝙡𝙡𝙮 𝙘𝙤𝙢𝙚 𝙝𝙤𝙢𝙚 𝙩𝙤 𝙤𝙪𝙧𝙨𝙚𝙡𝙫𝙚𝙨.
I ᴀᴍ ᴡʜᴏ I ᴀᴍ,
I ᴀᴍ ᴍʏ ᴘᴀꜱᴛ.
I ᴀᴍ ᴀʟʟ ᴛʜᴇ ᴍɪꜱᴛᴀᴋᴇꜱ I ʜᴀᴠᴇ ᴍᴀᴅᴇ
I ᴀᴍ ꜱᴏ ᴍᴜᴄʜ ᴍᴏʀᴇ
I ᴀᴍ ᴀʟꜱᴏ, ᴀɴᴅ ᴠᴇʀʏ ɪᴍᴘᴏʀᴛᴀɴᴛʟʏ, ᴇɴᴏᴜɢʜ.