Men’s Health: The Power of Vulnerability
๐ช๐ต๐ฒ๐ป ๐๐ผ๐ ๐ฑ๐ผ๐ปโ๐ ๐๐ฎ๐ป๐ ๐๐ผ ๐ฑ๐ผ ๐๐ผ๐บ๐ฒ๐๐ต๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐๐ผ๐ ๐น๐ผ๐๐ฒ ๐๐ผ ๐ฑ๐ผย โ ๐๐ต๐ฒ๐ป ๐๐ผ๐ ๐ต๐ฎ๐๐ฒ ๐ฎ ๐๐ฒ๐ฟ๐ถ๐ผ๐๐ ๐พ๐๐ฒ๐๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป ๐๐ผ ๐ฎ๐๐ธ ๐๐ผ๐๐ฟ๐๐ฒ๐น๐ณ.
I love giving talks.
I am in my flow state when presenting a talk of my own.
I know my own material inside out, which allows me to go off in tangents depending on whatโs sparked in the room.
I have to believe every word of what Iโm saying, because my talks come from a place of passion.
And it has to be something that will allow whoever is present, or listening, to reflect on their own life.
It will then elicit pertinent questions from the attendees which then helps me solve a problem for them, but also elucidate further on certain points.
๐๐ค ๐ฌ๐๐ฎ ๐๐๐ซ๐ ๐ ๐จ๐ฉ๐ง๐ช๐๐๐ก๐๐ ๐ฌ๐๐ฉ๐ ๐ฉ๐๐๐จ ๐ค๐ฃ๐?
I have been asked to talk about ๐๐๐น๐ป๐ฒ๐ฟ๐ฎ๐ฏ๐ถ๐น๐ถ๐๐ ๐ณ๐ผ๐ฟ ๐บ๐ฒ๐ป.
I was asked a few months ago and the talk was penciled in for the end of August.
It got pushed out to today.
I was delighted for all the extra time.
And I have continued to struggle to put it together.
I finally finished it on Friday.
Why – because it made me vulnerable.
When I talk โ I always put myself into it.
All of myself.
I am the example I use of the mistakes I speak about.
Simply because ๐ ๐ฎ๐บ ๐ป๐ผ ๐ด๐๐ฟ๐.
I am somebody who has made a lot of mistakes โ and I hope learned from a lot of them
I am somebody who will also make more mistakes.
๐๐๐ ๐ฎ๐๐ง๐๐จ๐ฉ๐๐๐ ๐๐ค๐ง ๐๐ค๐ฌ ๐โ๐ข ๐๐ค๐๐ฃ๐ ๐๐จ ๐ฌ๐๐๐ฉ๐๐๐ง ๐โ๐ข ๐ง๐๐ฅ๐๐๐ฉ๐๐ฃ๐ ๐ฉ๐๐ ๐จ๐๐ข๐ ๐ข๐๐จ๐ฉ๐๐ ๐๐จ.
To write about vulnerability for men has made me have to confront all the times in life where I have refused to be vulnerable.
To understand how I erected walls,
Put on Armor,
Created false beliefs,
Told outright lies,
Wouldnโt accept being wrong,
Couldnโt accept I was scared.
All to keep myself safe.
When the truth is ๐ ๐ฌ๐๐จ ๐๐ช๐จ๐ฉ ๐ฉ๐ฎ๐๐ฃ๐ ๐ฉ๐ค ๐ข๐๐ฃ๐๐๐ ๐ค๐ง ๐จ๐ค๐ค๐ฉ๐ ๐ฉ๐๐ ๐๐ฃ๐ญ๐๐๐ฉ๐ฎ ๐๐ฃ๐ ๐จ๐๐๐ข๐ instead of allowing myself be vulnerable.
๐๐ฃ๐จ๐ฉ๐๐๐ ๐ค๐ ๐๐๐๐ฃ๐๐๐ฃ๐ ๐ข๐ฎ ๐๐๐๐๐ซ๐๐ค๐ช๐ง๐จ ๐ฉ๐ค ๐ก๐๐๐ง๐ฃ ๐๐ฃ๐ ๐๐ง๐ค๐ฌ.
This is why doing something I love has proven to be difficult.
Or I should say had proven difficult.
I am ready to do it now.
๐๐ถ๐๐๐ฒ๐ป ๐๐ผ ๐๐ต๐ฎ๐ ๐ฑ๐ถ๐๐ฐ๐ผ๐บ๐ณ๐ผ๐ฟ๐ โ before you put on your Armor โ allow yourself the chance to learn and grow and become a better version of yourself.
๐๐๐ ๐ฉ๐ง๐ช๐ ๐ข๐๐๐จ๐ช๐ง๐ ๐ค๐ ๐ฌ๐๐ค ๐ฌ๐ ๐๐ง๐ ๐๐จ ๐ฌ๐๐๐ฃ ๐ฌ๐ ๐๐ก๐ก๐ค๐ฌ ๐ค๐ช๐ง๐จ๐๐ก๐ซ๐๐จ ๐ฉ๐ค ๐๐ ๐๐ช๐ฉ๐๐๐ฃ๐ฉ๐๐, ๐๐ฃ๐ ๐๐๐ฃ๐๐ก๐ก๐ฎ ๐๐ค๐ข๐ ๐๐ค๐ข๐ ๐ฉ๐ค ๐ค๐ช๐ง๐จ๐๐ก๐ซ๐๐จ.
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Mark
Mark is a dynamic and transformational life and executive coach. He is also a corporate wellbeing coach and consultant, and takes his experience and learning from over 20 years in the corporate world as an inspiration for his talks and work on how we can be better in work and better in life.
As well as being a very committed coach he is a passionate public speaker, twice toastmasters national champion and a TEDx speaker where he spoke about 'the magic of being yourself' - capturing his philosophy that 'coming home to ourselves' and living a life in line with what we value is the catalyst for living our best life.
